Can we please take a moment and discuss this latest physical beauty obsession? I am talking about the craze of needing a gap between your thighs - and not just a sliver but a full on up to your crotch gap?! Ladies, please.
This is what comes of skinny jeans coming into fashion again. I was against it from the start. I knew that no good would come of it. Mostly at the time I was against seeing people who should clearly not be wearing skinny jeans wearing them. And worse leggings came back and don't even get me started on the people stretching those out all over town. Don't get me wrong - I'm not hating. Just not all looks work for all people and its good to dress for what suits the body you have today instead of following every trend blindly. But I digress.
Let me ask, what is the purpose of having a great thigh gap? Is it to impress men? I don't think I have ever heard a couple guys talking about a ladies amazing thigh gap. I have however heard them talk about a girls scrawny legs. Ladies, guys are clueless about your body. If your guy is pushing you to change your body in any way other than just encouraging you to be healthy he is a loser.
V: What do you think about thigh gaps?
S: What is it?
V: The gap between a woman's thighs.
S: You mean a vagina?
Clearly the pressure for a thigh gap isn't coming from men. So is it coming from other women? Is this a self inflicted obsession rooted in body envy? Do we see the thighs of other women and wish for the same? What happened to self-love? Why can't we appreciate the amazing things our bodies can do while at the same time loving the uniqueness of each one? Shapely legs are the ones that show off womanly curves. Legs with great thigh gaps look like the legs of teenage boys. As a woman why not be proud of the things that make us a woman. That extra layer of fat that makes your thighs touch is there for a reason. If you become pregnant it is the first food your baby will receive. Let's accept this as one of the amazing things about being a woman and embrace it. Comparing ourselves to the random people we see only encourages feelings of isolation and depression. Instead we should admire traits in others without feeling like our own traits are in any way deficient. We are all different, and we are all beautiful.
Media will always be pushing an image at us. Whether it wants us to have a thigh gap, abs, a size 0 body, all while eating the fast food and pizza's; or owning a huge house, with a new car, and a four-wheeler or boat for recreation despite the low income job we work; we have to stay strong and be true to what we know is for our best. We need to look at our bodies as the amazing machines they are and keep them healthy and strong. We need to learn to disregard the disparities that the media shows us because the media is tricky beast. With one hand it tells us to be dissatisfied with our lives and with the other it is selling a $19.95 solution to that dissatisfaction. Stay strong and remember that you already have all the tools you need to succeed within you.